Your Pain Is Not Out There — It’s Inside You

 

People often come to therapy saying things like:
“If I had a better partner, I wouldn’t be suffering…”
“If I moved to another city, maybe I’d feel peace…”
“If I could just quit porn, I’d be a new person…”

But the truth is:
It’s not the world outside that’s hurting you.
It’s something within you that broke a long time ago.

🔍 The pain is not where you think it is

It’s not in your job.
It’s not in your partner.
It’s not in the lack of money.
It’s not even in your addiction.

The pain lives in you.

In the child inside who once felt unloved, abandoned, or rejected.
Who made a silent decision: “There’s something wrong with me.”

That child learned to hide.
To numb.
To escape — with food, sex, alcohol, social media, achievements, or toxic people.

But pain doesn’t go away.
It transforms into anxiety, anger, emotional emptiness, or the endless need to be validated.

🧠 What does attachment have to do with it?

If you grew up fearing the loss of love,
if you felt you had to earn affection or be someone else to be accepted,
your body learned to live in survival mode.

Every relationship became a test:
“Will they leave me?”
“Will they love me?”
“Am I enough?”

Behind all these questions…
is an attachment wound —
the root of your suffering.

🛑 The solution is not escape. It's return.

You won’t find peace out there.
Not in other people.
Not in control.
Not in perfection.

Peace comes when you come home to yourself.
To the child within.
To the emotions you’ve buried.
To your body, which keeps sending you signals you keep ignoring.

🎤 How can hypnotherapy help?

Hypnosis is not magic.
It’s a deep reconnection with yourself — in a safe, guided space where you:

  • listen to your body and learn to trust it

  • connect with the emotions you’ve shut down

  • rebuild what you didn’t get in time: love, safety, validation

Healing begins the moment you stop abandoning yourself.

🤝 If you feel like you’ve been running long enough…

I’m Marian. I work with adults who’ve experienced early trauma and are ready for deep, embodied healing — not just “coping.”

If you're ready to stop running and start returning to yourself,
I’m here to guide you.

📩 Message me.
🎧 Book a session.
📍 You get to decide whether your trauma defines you — or sets you free.

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