"The Healing Hypnotist: Transforming Childhood Trauma

The Biggest Fear People Have About Hypnotherapy — and Why It’s Not True One of the most common questions I hear as a trauma therapist is: “What if I lose control during hypnotherapy?” It’s a valid question. Especially if you grew up in an environment where your boundaries were ignored, your emotions weren’t respected, or your body didn’t feel like a safe place to be. Let me say this clearly: 👉 Hypnotherapy is not about control. It’s about connection. 🎭 Where Does the Fear Come From? Most people’s image of hypnosis comes from movies or stage shows — where people cluck like chickens, forget their names, or reveal their deepest secrets. That’s entertainment. Therapeutic hypnotherapy is completely different. In a clinical session, you are never unconscious. You’re not being “taken over.” And you won’t do or say anything you don’t want to. In fact, most clients say: “I knew what was happening the whole time — I just felt really relaxed.” 🔐 For Trauma Survivors, Thi...

  Where Is the Mind? We often speak about the mind as if it’s somewhere up there — hidden inside the brain, behind the eyes, controlling everything we do. But if you’ve ever had a panic attack, felt butterflies in your stomach, or frozen when someone raised their voice... you know the truth: 🌀 The mind is not just in your head. The mind is also in your body. The latest neuroscience supports what ancient traditions have always known: The body stores memory. The nervous system remembers. Trauma lives in your tissues, not just your thoughts. When you were a child, if you were scared, neglected, or shamed — your body felt it. And if no one helped you process those emotions, they got stored as tension, anxiety, numbness, or emotional reactivity. You might say, “I don’t remember anything traumatic,” But your body remembers. 💭 So… where is the mind? It’s in your chest , when it tightens at the thought of abandonment. It’s in your throat , when you can’t say what you real...

  People often come to therapy saying things like: “If I had a better partner, I wouldn’t be suffering…” “If I moved to another city, maybe I’d feel peace…” “If I could just quit porn, I’d be a new person…” But the truth is: It’s not the world outside that’s hurting you. It’s something within you that broke a long time ago. 🔍 The pain is not where you think it is It’s not in your job. It’s not in your partner. It’s not in the lack of money. It’s not even in your addiction. The pain lives in you. In the child inside who once felt unloved, abandoned, or rejected. Who made a silent decision: “There’s something wrong with me.” That child learned to hide. To numb. To escape — with food, sex, alcohol, social media, achievements, or toxic people. But pain doesn’t go away. It transforms into anxiety , anger , emotional emptiness , or the endless need to be validated . 🧠 What does attachment have to do with it? If you grew up fearing the loss of love, if you fel...